Cancer women may have the hardest time of all the Zodiac signs with love and relationships. A committed, dependable relationship often feels like our own personal hell, as we’re almost compulsively drawn to new people, places, and experiences. It takes a tremendously secure man to be a good match for a Cancer woman, as we regularly act out in extreme and unpredictable ways. While we do make the most intense and exciting girlfriends, Cancer women also have many traits that make it difficult for us to make it work long-term.
WE’RE ALWAYS BORED.
We’re bored when we’re home, when we go out, when we’re single, and when we’re in a relationship. We need to switch up locations frequently to avoid becoming disinterested and un engaged, and are often the ones suggesting it’s time to hit another bar on a Saturday night, even if everyone else is having fun where they are. To avoid getting bored in a relationship, we need to mix it up A LOT. If you can’t keep up with constant vacations, frequent new hobbies, regular home remodels, and testing out every sex position known to man, we’ll get tired of you and move on.
WE TAKE EVERYTHING TO THE EXTREME.
Cancer women are more likely to do 10 shots at the bar, bet their entire paycheck on the craps table, or watch two entire seasons of 30 Rockon Netflix in one sitting. Men can become exhausted keeping up with us or encourage us to mellow out, causing us to flee.
WE’RE ALMOST INTOLERABLY INDEPENDENT.
Being independent is a good quality, but Cancer women are independent to the point of almost never compromising. We often take on the “if you don’t like it, leave” attitude that makes our partners feel unimportant. We don’t mean to hurt your feelings, truly.
IT’S ALMOST TOO EASY FOR US TO GET A BOYFRIEND.
Cancer women have a knack for turning almost every casual date into a serious love interest. We are so exciting that men often mistake a little thrill for some serious emotions. While they always eventually sort out their confusion, our easy access to relationships can make us not appreciate the one we have. We know we can have another you by tomorrow.
WE CAN’T STAND SOCIAL NICETIES.
We struggle with small talk and “playing nice.” It feels suffocating to us and we’d really rather not do it. Beware of taking a Cancer woman to things like important work events, as we’ll probably end up doing shots and telling your coworker why his tie makes him look like a loser. We’ll support you in every other important way, but if being charming in social situations is an expected requirement; we’ll bail on the relationship ASAP.
WE GET RESTLESS.
We prefer to remain in motion and always mix it up. Routines can make us feel like we’re drowning. If you’re not willing to be spontaneous and adventurous, you have no shot at holding our interest.
WE TAKE ON TOO MANY RESPONSIBILITIES.
We get really excited about new projects and end up over committing our time. Once our initial energy wares off, we often end up putting our love life on the back burner while we scramble to meet deadlines and get things done. Cancer women need a man who doesn’t mind taking a back seat while we are busy, as the amount of free time we have to give to them varies tremendously.
WORDS WITHOUT ACTIONS ARE MEANINGLESS TO US.
We put very little value in verbal apologies and statements of love. If we don’t see any actions, we don’t actually care what you say or if you’re trying.
WE HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO TOLERANCE FOR LYING.
Most long term relationships involve a certain amount of microscopically small lies or white lies. We’d rather have our feelings hurt than be lied to, and it takes us a long time to get over the betrayal of dishonesty. We’re still pissed long after our friends tell us it was no big deal and it’s time to let it go.
WE HAVE THE WORST CASE OF FOMO.
We’re always concerned about missing out and wondering if the grass is greener somewhere else. We know logically that there will ALWAYS be some other guy that’s objectively “better” out there, but that won’t stop us from being tempted to improve our love life with someone else. We’re totally capable of being faithful, but can’t help but wonder if we’re missing out on something we could have had with a different partner.
WE NEED A LOT OF INTELLECTUAL STIMULATION.
On top of being secure, spontaneous, adventurous, accepting, and a rock star in bed, Cancer women also need their mates to be borderline geniuses. If you can’t challenge us intellectually, we have a hard time respecting you or feeling like you’re worthy of our affection.
WE’RE NOT POSSESSIVE. LIKE, AT ALL.
Which is a good thing, except it often leaves our lovers feeling like we don’t care about them. We don’t see any correlation between how much we love someone and how much we’d try to stop them from leaving us, and that can send the wrong message. We like when both parties know they are free to leave at any moment, but chose to stay.
WE CAN ROTATE BETWEEN BEING EXTROVERTS AND INTROVERTS.
Because we always need to mix it up, we also need breaks from going out and being social. We have phases where we need to hit the bars till 4 am every night and phases where movie night on the couch is the only thing we can stomach. We need someone who can get on board with our mood and energy phases, and not pressure us to be one way or the other.
WE PREFER PEOPLE THAT ARE NEW.
We love new people. We put a lot of value in meeting new people, and figuring them out is one of our favorite hobbies. Sometimes it’s difficult for Cancer to incorporate the same person in our lives for extended periods of time, because it’s easier and more interesting for us to just replace friends and boyfriends with new ones.
WE GOT LOST IN EXISTENTIAL CRISES.
Cancer women often contemplate larger problems and deeper meanings. We fall into funks where our individual problems don’t seem to matter in the big scheme of things, often resulting in us belittling our boyfriends for having seemingly unimportant problems. It’s not that we don’t care about what’s going on in your life, it’s that we’re distracted by famine, genocide, and the possibility of life after death.
WE STRUGGLE TO COPE WHEN THE HONEYMOON PHASE IS OVER.
This isn’t really fun for anyone, but Cancer struggles with coping the most. It can feel like we’re trading in everything we love for everything we hate. Cancer women are wonderful, passionate girlfriends who push their partners to be better versions of themselves, but sticking it out long term is not one of their strengths. Cancer women often have many short term, yet very meaningful, relationships until they find someone worth bending (just a little bit) for.